So, I'm going a little bit bonkers being stuck inside this house without my husband for the last several weeks. Brian works nights and so my time is often spent waiting for him to wake up. For years we have had barely 10 hours a week together to cram in errands, family time, friend time and the occasional "adult" time. He leaves for work before the kids are in bed, so I literally have alone time with him every seven days. Staying home with three children often leaves our schedules completely opposite. Which means by the time he is awake and ready for the day,I am drifting lazily into sleepy town. My social life is poops too, since my only chance to get out of the house without my kids is when he is home & awake, which means I have to choose between seeing my husband or my friends. Obviously, hubby trumps..well..EVERYTHING!
What makes the last few weeks so crummy is that on top of him now having to go into work 2 hours earlier ( getting home @ the same time)iIs that he has recently taken a second job to bring in some extra money. Now, God bless him, I know he is doing this for our benefit but now all the 'free' time he had is now being eaten up by this other job. In the last three weeks I have seen him honestly about 15 minutes during the day (long enough for him to eat a bowl of cereal) and then he is gone the rest of the day & night. To top it off, his car is not working so he has been taking mine and we can't go anywhere. AND our backyard is covered in deck debris from when he tore down our old one so my kids can't go outside to play. Ever try keeping a kid inside the first couple weeks of spring after a long winter? Especially when you have a trampoline that is just DYING to be jumped on? Try it! It is invigorating!
Anyway, so I try to find some helpful tips online that could possibly keep my from drowning in this hole of lonesome momminess, and do you know what I find? Oh all sorts of great things! Like, 'try a new hairstyle'. Or 'read a book'. "Mending' or 'clean out your closets'. REALLY?!?!?! THIS is what we should be doing to break up the monotony of being a stay at home mom? Are we to assume that our brains have been so massively under-stimulated and by some weird pseudo evolution,so horrifically adapted to housework that these ideas are considered 'Boredom Busters'? Holy-crap is it THAT bad? It was pretty depressing honestly. I gotta say before I had kids, darning a sock was never my idea of a poppin' Friday night and I can't see the appeal now after I have had three.
So what do I do? I'm looking for some companionship. Having an eye-to-eye conversation with someone I don't tower over. I don't know, maybe share a laugh with someone whose butt I've never wiped. Is that too much to ask? ...anyone?
What makes the last few weeks so crummy is that on top of him now having to go into work 2 hours earlier ( getting home @ the same time)iIs that he has recently taken a second job to bring in some extra money. Now, God bless him, I know he is doing this for our benefit but now all the 'free' time he had is now being eaten up by this other job. In the last three weeks I have seen him honestly about 15 minutes during the day (long enough for him to eat a bowl of cereal) and then he is gone the rest of the day & night. To top it off, his car is not working so he has been taking mine and we can't go anywhere. AND our backyard is covered in deck debris from when he tore down our old one so my kids can't go outside to play. Ever try keeping a kid inside the first couple weeks of spring after a long winter? Especially when you have a trampoline that is just DYING to be jumped on? Try it! It is invigorating!
Anyway, so I try to find some helpful tips online that could possibly keep my from drowning in this hole of lonesome momminess, and do you know what I find? Oh all sorts of great things! Like, 'try a new hairstyle'. Or 'read a book'. "Mending' or 'clean out your closets'. REALLY?!?!?! THIS is what we should be doing to break up the monotony of being a stay at home mom? Are we to assume that our brains have been so massively under-stimulated and by some weird pseudo evolution,so horrifically adapted to housework that these ideas are considered 'Boredom Busters'? Holy-crap is it THAT bad? It was pretty depressing honestly. I gotta say before I had kids, darning a sock was never my idea of a poppin' Friday night and I can't see the appeal now after I have had three.
So what do I do? I'm looking for some companionship. Having an eye-to-eye conversation with someone I don't tower over. I don't know, maybe share a laugh with someone whose butt I've never wiped. Is that too much to ask? ...anyone?
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